This article will help you by giving a few hints and showing you how to look for cluesto work out the difference between fake love and real true love.

Fake Love Doesn’t Last

Both forms of love begin with obsession. The chemistry in love is characterized by the two people involved thinking about nothing else other than the other person they are involved with. During this period of chemical high they forget any and all idea about the concept called time. As far as these two persons are concerned, nothing else exists apart from the other person exists.

However fake love is characterized only by this chemistry and hence only lasts for anywhere between 3-18 months. On the other hand, real love keeps its chemistry and develops into a deeper and calmer and much firmer love.

Fake Love is Imaginary

Based solely on physical intimacy, fake love is short term love. People involved in fake love make assumptions about each other rather than really knowing things about each other. A person involved in a fake love relationship keeps insisting that the other person in the relationship is the most wonderful person they have ever met. However, in reality this is only based on imaginings that they have about the other person – it is not based on the actual person at all.

After the initial obsession settles down, they then start seeing the actual person as they really are, and later decide as to whether that person is the right person for them after all.

Fake Love is Based on Fairy Tales

Just like in fairy stories, where all her dreams come true, the girl feels like she is a princess and keeps looking for her eligible Prince Charming, with whom she can share a life of riches, love and happiness. On the other hand, the boy involved feels that he is a frog who keeps waiting for a Princess to come and kiss him. After that he will become a dashing and handsome young prince. However, as the initial chemical high begins to wear off they start seeing each other as the ordinary people they really are.

After this initial high two things might happen. Either the two people involved actually recognise a true partner in the other and then real love develops, or the love can become poisonous. This forces the guy to become a frog and wait for another princess. The girl starts looking for another frog to kiss.

Fake Love Has No Future

When the initial chemistry has faded, fake love ends up in pain, drama and conflict. However, after the same initial phase, real love converts itself into thought, service, care and emotional understanding and support. By sincerely responding to each other’s needs day after day people sharing real love find that it flows smoothly and effortlessly into the future.

If you do not understand or cannot work out whether the man you date or are married to actually loves you or not, it must be really a painful experience. However, in order to decrease your anxiety I am going to share with you 7 of the secrets of understanding whether or not your guy does actually care:

1. Does he do some nice little thing every day?

It is the small things that your man might subconsciously do each day that will tell you that your guy actually cares for you, even if he does not speak much or express his love for you. These things could be anything from getting you coffee in the morning, pitching in to help clean up the mess around the house, or doing an additional chore etc.

2. Does he ask what you think?

If he needs to know how to get somewhere, or wants to avoid reading the assembling instructions while putting together a new piece of furniture or appliance, most men avoid asking strangers for help. The reason for this is because it goes against their sense of pride to ask help from people they don’t know. So bear in mind that, if your guy asks your opinion every now and then, or even once in a while, consider it a sure sign that he is saying that he cares for you.

3. Is he possessive about you?

It is a clear sign of deep love and interest in you if your man becomes possessive and jealous when he sees other men being flirtatious or making suggestive sexual comments towards you. Even if your man gets turned on because of another man showing interest in you, it is a good enough indication that your man truly cares about you. However, it is likely that he does not have any interest in you if he shows no emotion in that instance.

4. Does he hold your hand in public?

If your man often tries to hold your hand when in public, it clearly shows that he cares.

5. Does he do what you want to do?

It is a clear sign that shows that he cares when your guy puts his interests second to satisfy and please you like not watching the football match while your favourite soap is on, or dining out at the restaurant that you prefer.

6. Does he ask how you are feeling?

If your man asks how you are feeling after a hard day at work, or when you are going through a difficult experience, these signs indicate how much he cares for you.

7. Does he care about your friends and family?

It shows that he really cares for you if your man is kind and supportive to your friends and family. Even if it is quite difficult to get close to your friends and family, it is a sign that he deeply cares for you if he puts in a special effort.

I am sure you understand that relationships may be very complex, and these signs will help you to work out how your man really feels. If you think there are not enough signs to show that he cares for you, you can fix your relationship by putting in extra effort to draw him closer to you.